DAILY PSYCHOLOGY
Influence Psychology 影响心理学
1. If you want to determine whether the other party is looking at you, you can subconsciously look at your watch, and the other party will follow you to look at your watch.
2. If you want to truly understand a person, don't look at the Moments he posts, because the Moments you see can be designed.
3. People who like to make fun of other people's shortcomings tend to have low self-esteem.
4. When you talk a lot and the other party suddenly picks up things, it means that the other party doesn't want to listen.
5. Many times when we go shopping, after shopping around, people tend to be more inclined to buy the first one.
6. To achieve an excessive goal, you can first make an even more excessive request.
7. When handing scissors, the person with the tip of the knife facing him is often kind-hearted, careful and generous.
8. People who like to sit in the corner are either insecure in their hearts or don't want to be noticed.
9. When you meet someone, they don't dare to look at you because they like you or owe you money.
10. People who like friendly comments are kind-hearted and never take the initiative to attack others.
11. People who like to talk to others about themselves are either too stressed or not having a good time.
12. People who struggle with making choices generally lack self-confidence. They don't have enough confidence in what they encounter and like to procrastinate, making things impossible to go on.
13. People who haven't contacted you for a long time suddenly contacted you, either asking for you or wanting to borrow money.
14. People who often use the words "You said XXX" in meetings are either flattering or have high emotional intelligence.
15. If you want to know more details after someone has finished speaking, keep your eyes on them and keep silent and they will tell you more.
16. When a guy meets you for the first time, he will tell you all about it, don't think you are special, he may have said the same to others.
17. When a person laughs, if there are no crow's feet, there is a high probability that he is smirking.
18. People who don't want to trouble others actually don't want others to trouble themselves.
19. If you want others to more easily agree with what you say, you can nod your head slightly as you speak.
20. If you suddenly pay attention to your own image, there must be someone you like around you.
1. 如果你想确定对方是否在看你，你可以下意识的看你的手表，对方会跟着你看你的手表。
2. 如果你想真正了解一个人，不要看他发的朋友圈，因为你看到的朋友圈是可以设计的。
3. 喜欢用别人的缺点开玩笑的人，往往自卑。
4. 你说话时，对方突然去捡东西，说明对方不想听。
5. 很多时候我们去逛街，货比三家之后，人们往往更倾向于买第一个。
6. 要达到过分的目标，可以先提出更过分的要求。
7. 递剪刀时，刀尖对着自己的人往往心地善良，细心大方。
8. 喜欢坐在角落里的人，要么心里没有安全感，要么不想被人注意。
10. 喜欢友善评论的人，内心都比较善良，从不会主动攻击别人。
11. 喜欢向别人倾诉自己的人，不是压力太大，就是过得不太好。
12. 纠结做选择的人，一般比较缺乏自信。他们对所遇到的事物没有足够的信心，总喜欢拖延，导致事情无法进行下去。
13. 很久不联系你的人，突然跟你联系了，不是有求于你，就是想借钱。
14. 开会时，经常用 “您说过XXX”的话的人，不是马屁精就是情商比较高。
15. 如果你想知道更多细节，别人说完后，用眼睛看着他们保持沉默，他们会告诉你更多。
16. 一个男生第一次跟你见面就和盘托出，不要觉得你特别，他可能也对别人这么说过。
17. 一个人笑的时候，若没有一丁点鱼尾纹，大概率他在假笑。
18. 不想麻烦别人的人，其实也不想让别人来麻烦自己。
19. 如果你想要别人更容易认同你说的话，可以在说话时微微点头。
20. 如果忽然注意自身形象，一定是身边出现了喜欢的人。
Ideomotor Phenomenon 暗示心理
1. Line of sight hint: If you want to pass the crowded crowd, as long as your eyes are in the direction you want to go, you will find that the crowd will give you the way. 【As long as you have goals and focus your attention, everyone will "make way" for you. 】
2. Nodding cue: If you want people to agree with your point of view, then nod when you speak, "nodding" will cause a psychological cue to the other party, meaning "what I said is true", which will increase your point of view and persuasiveness. 【If someone talks to you about something you don't care about, it's also a good choice to stay silent or nod your head. 】
3. Guilt cues: If you want someone to help you, start the conversation with "I need your help." This opening will increase the other person's feelings of guilt, people hate feeling guilty, so you're more likely to get help. 【Of course, being willing to help others and delaying the work at hand is more than worth the loss. 】
4. Behavioral cues: If you find that a person doesn't like you, you can ask him for a favour. If he helps you, it will greatly improve his favour with you, because he has recognized you for his behaviour, which will help you. Gradually affect their psychology. 【It will give people a "sense of identity" from the heart, and after getting along for a long time, "enemies" will have the opportunity to become lovers. 】
5. Selective suggestion: If you want to drink milk tea, you need to discuss with your partner: "Which of these flavours should we drink?" Make it in your prompt, choose one to reach you Instead of telling you: "Let's go and have coffee!" 【Giving a choice is actually imprisoning the other person's mind. 】
6. Repeating hints: No matter what the other party just said, please repeat it again and again, so that the person you are talking to will subconsciously feel that you are a very good listener, and their favour for you will skyrocket. 【Especially during the meeting, you can mention the views of the previous speakers. 】
1. 视线暗示 ：想要通过拥挤的人群，只要视线朝着你要去的方向，你会发现，面对来的人群，都会给你让路。【只要我们有目标，把注意力聚焦，所有人都会给你 “让路”。】
2. 点头暗示 ：如果你想让人们同意你的观点，那么你说话的时候点头，“点头”会给对方造成一种心理暗示，意思是 “我说的都是真的”，这样会增加你的观点和说服力。【如果有人和你聊一件你不关心的事儿，沉默不语或者点头也是很好的选择。】
3. 内疚暗示 ：如果你希望有人来帮助你，用 “我需要你的帮助”来开始对话，这样的开头会增加对方的内疚感，人们讨厌感到内疚，所以你获得帮助的可能性会大大提高。【当然，乐于助人而耽误自己原本手头上的事儿，这就得不偿失了。】
4. 行为暗示 ：如果你发现一个人不喜欢你，可以去请他帮个忙，如果他帮助了你，则会大大的提高对你的好感，因为他从行为上已经认可你了，这样会渐渐的影响到他们的心理。【会让人从心里产生“认同感”，相处久了“冤家”也会有机会成为情侣。】
5. 选择性暗示 ：如果你想要喝奶茶，你需要这样和你的同伴商量：“我们喝这这种口味中的哪一种呢？”使其在你的提示里，选择一个来达成你的心愿，而不是告诉你：“我们去和咖啡吧！”【给予选择，其实就是禁锢对方的思想。】
6. 重复暗示 ：不管对方刚刚说什么，请复述一遍，再说一遍，这样与你交谈的人，会潜意识的感觉到，你是一个非常好的倾听者，对你的好感会直线上升。【尤其在开会的时候，可以提一下之前演讲人的观点。】
Brainwash 洗脑方式
1. Flattery: Flattery is the simplest and most efficient way of brainwashing. As long as you say something in your favour, you will be more inclined to think he is right. This is the biggest flaw in human nature. When I want to destroy a person, I will support him without limit. The higher he was held up, the more miserable he was when he fell.
2. Profits: "profit promotion", "big sale at a loss", "jumping the property price", "cash back with coupons"... Why is such an official transmission method enduring for so long? Not for anything else, just because people who buy things always want to take advantage. And there is an information gap in both buyer and seller poems, buying a house never knows what the cost of the goods is. Therefore, when the seller makes a profit, the buyer will think that he has made a profit. Therefore, when we are dealing with people, it is good to constantly let the other party take advantage. People are all inferior, and you have to habitually satisfy their inferiority. Because you have to know that he takes advantage of you, and one day he will return it 10 times as much.
3. Emotional bondage: The first thing we should understand is that useful things in this world are often not very expensive, only those useless things are expensive. Water, food, and clothes are actually not expensive, but useless things like paintings, jewellery, and watches are very expensive. In this case, if you want to sell the useless thing, you must bundle the concept. For example, tying diamonds and love together, and constantly instilling in you the concept of buying a diamond ring when you get married. If you buy a diamond, I don’t know if you are happy or not. Anyway, capitalists are happy.
4. Create anxiety: Each group has its own anxiety and pain points, and the anxiety and pain points of similar people are basically the same. For example, girls love beauty, old people are afraid of death, men are lecherous, and children are afraid of being stupid. If you can grasp the pain points of a certain type of person and create anxiety for him, you can easily prosecute his behaviour. There is a saying in the education world: "If we don't train your children, we are training your children's competitors".
5. Comfortable : I don’t know if there are people who often say in your ear: “It’s enough to work hard, there’s no way out if you are fooling around; can’t you go to work safely? You have to mess around; in short, the only purpose of these words is to make you Stay in the current environment, don’t change, and change may starve you to death.” But these terms are surprisingly useful, because no one wants to take risks, and no one wants to explore the unknown. Moreover, even if someone tells you something, as long as it is beyond your cognizance, you will reject it.
6. Habits: Do you know how to keep someone from leaving you? The best way is to let him get used to your presence. You have to let him fix a behaviour pattern over a long period of time, and you will become his biggest support and his bottom line. For example, you let him spend whatever he wants, and you lend him money as long as he spends his salary. Let him develop the habit of spending money with his hands and feet. As long as he develops this habit, he will not be able to leave you. When you don't lend him money one day, he won't be able to live, and people will be useless.
1. 捧杀 ：拍马屁就是最简单、最高效的洗脑方式。只要说对你有利的话，你就会更倾向于认为他说的是对的，这就是人性当中最大的缺陷。当我想毁掉一个人的时候，我会无限制的捧他。他被捧得越高，摔下来的时候也就越惨。
2. 让利 ：“利大促销”，“亏本大甩卖”，“跳楼价”，“领劵返现”......为什么这样的官传方式经久不衰？不为别的，就因为买东西的人，永远都想占便宜。而且买方和卖方诗中都存在着信息差，买房永远都不知道商品的成本到底是多少。所以当卖方做出让利的行为时，买房就会以为自己赚了便宜。所以我们在与人打交道，就不断的让对方占便宜就好，人都是有劣根性的，你要习惯性地满足他的劣根性。因为你要知道，他从你这占的便宜，有一天他会10倍的还回来的。
3. 感情捆绑 ：我们首先应该明白的是这个世界上有用的东西往往不会很贵，只有那些没用的东西才贵。水、食物、衣服其实都不贵，但是字画、珠宝、手表这些没什么用的东西反而很贵。在这种情况下，要想把没用的东西卖出去，就一定要捆绑概念。例如，把钻石和爱情捆绑在一起，不断地给你灌输结婚就要买钻戒的概念，买了钻石，幸不幸福我不知道，反正资本家是幸福了。
4. 制造焦虑 ：每个人群身上，都有属于自己的焦虑和痛点，并且同类人的焦虑和痛点是基本一致的。例如，女生爱美，老人怕死，男人好色，小孩怕傻。如果你能抓住某一类人的痛点，去给他制造焦虑，那就可以轻易的检控他的行为。教育界有一句话：“我们不培养你的孩子，那就是在培养你孩子的竞争对手”。
5. 安逸 ：不知道有没有人经常在你耳边的说：“好好工作就行了，瞎闯是没出路的；安稳上班不行吗？非要瞎折腾；总之，这些话的唯一目的就是要你呆在现在这个环境当中，不要改变，改变就有可能会饿死。”但是这些用语出奇的有用，因为没人愿意去冒风险，没有人愿意去探索未知的领域。而且，即便是有人告诉你一些事情，只要超出了你的认知范围，你就会排斥。
6. 培养习惯：你知道怎么让一个人不离开你吗？最好的方式，就是让他习惯你的存在。你要通过漫长的时间，让他固定一个行为模式，你就会成为他最大的依靠，成为他的保底工程。例如，你让他随便花钱，只要他把自己的工资花光，你就借给他钱。让他养成大手脚花钱的习惯，只要他养成了这个习惯，他就离不开你了。等你哪天不借钱给他了，他就活不下去了，人也就废了。
GOOD effort
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